It is tough getting through life on your own, especially when you are feeling down. So I want to encourage you to get some support.
Talk to someone. Find a positive person to give you a hand – a wise friend, work colleague, or trusted family member. If you don’t know anyone, then employ a person - a dietician, a massage therapist, a counsellor, a life coach or someone appropriate to the task on hand. Whoever the person is, they must be on your side: positive and caring. Ask if you can meet them on a regular basis for a set amount of time. Also be specific about the type of support you need.
• It could be general. I am feeling .... (and show them your list) and I want to work on feeling better. Could you meet me regularly to discuss this list and give me some encouragement. I need some fresh ideas and positive support.
• It could be specific. I need someone to help me with my diet. Could you meet me once a week for an hour) to:-
a) look at what I ate the previous week and
b) help me make simple changes that would benefit me and
c) give me new ideas. I don’t need someone to tell me off or to write the diet for me.
• I need someone to support me while I learn a new skill. I lack confidence, so I need lots of encouragement. I need to talk to someone about strategies for learning, how to improve and to celebrate change with me.
• I need someone to help me develop skills and acquire knowledge around stress management.
Be clear you don’t need someone to rescue you – in the end you would feel disempowered – you need support. Create a clear “brief” for your helper with boundaries, objectives and clear expectations.
If you need help with changes in your life, book in for a $50 session with Elayne.
I also have Christmas Gift Vouchers available - $50 for a one hour session (valued at $70).